Compliments: The Gifts We Often Refuse
“A compliment is a gift, not to be thrown away carelessly unless you want to hurt the giver.”
Eleanor Hamilton
How do you usually respond when someone gives you a compliment?
Do you find yourself brushing it off, laughing it away, or feeling a little uncomfortable? Maybe you quickly change the subject or try to convince the person that they’re mistaken.
You’re not alone. Many of us struggle to accept compliments. We cringe inwardly, sometimes even outwardly, when someone says something kind about us. But have you ever stopped to consider how it feels to give someone a compliment, only to have it dismissed or rejected? It’s like offering someone a gift, only to have them hand it back and say they don’t deserve it. It stings.
Now think about how much better it feels when someone accepts a compliment with a simple, sincere “thank you.” That small moment of appreciation creates a positive exchange between two people. Even more importantly, every time you accept a compliment, you’re reinforcing a positive message about yourself deep in your subconscious. You’re telling yourself that you are worthy of kindness, recognition, and praise.
Instead of deflecting compliments, embrace them. Next time someone says something nice about you, resist the urge to downplay or dismiss it. Smile, look them in the eye, and say, “thank you.” It’s that simple and powerful.
Here’s a helpful habit to build your self-esteem: find a small box or jar and dedicate it as your “compliment box.” Every time someone gives you a compliment, write it down on a slip of paper and place it in the box. On days when you’re feeling low or doubtful, open your compliment box and read through those notes. Don’t overanalyse or question whether they were sincere just absorb the kindness. Let it remind you of how others see your worth, especially when you struggle to see it yourself.
You’ll be amazed at how uplifting it can be.
Affirmation: Today, I believe the compliments that I receive.
