Hello Freedom Fighters 🙂
Hope we are all settling into October nicely. This month of transition can be very challenging for many of us in recovery. Hopefully our tips and reflections this month can make it a little easier for you.
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Tip of the Month:
This month will be Halloween. The shop windows are decorated with scary costumes, pumpkins and witches’ brooms. There is a sense of mysticism in the air. Children spend days preparing their costumes and masks. They cannot wait to see our faces when they dress up, and wear masks to fool us, and to scare us. It is fun for them. Half the excitement of this night is guessing, “Who is behind that mask?”
When we suffer from Emotional Distress we also wear masks. We pretend to be something that we are not, and as a result we are always hiding our real selves. Sometimes we don’t even know who is hiding behind the masks. The thought of attempting to remove the mask can causes so much fear and pain. We are so afraid of what lies behind it.
“If they knew the real me, they would not like me…”. Ddoes this sentence sound familiar? Recovery is a time when you learn to stop hiding. You have the choice to let go of the fear of being you. Let go of the fear of rejection, and other negative feelings.
This time of the year you can encourage yourself to find the good person that is hiding behind your mask. From now on, cast aside your mask and reveal your true self.
Some Interesting Facts about Halloween
About 2,000 years ago the Celts celebrated their new year on November 1st .This day marked the end of one season and the start of cold and dark winter. It was a time of the year that is often associated with death. People believed that the night before this New Year, ghosts of the dead can returned to the earth to cause trouble and damage crops. They built huge sacred bonfires, where the people gathered to burn crops and animals as sacrifices to the Celtic deities. They would wear many different costumes resembling different animals. When the celebration was over, they re-lit their fires, which they had extinguished earlier that evening, as a sign that the sacred bonfire would help protect them during the coming winter.
Romans celebrated similar festivals dedicated to Pomona, the Roman goddess of fruit and trees. Pomina’s symbol is an apple and that is why we give out apples today. It is a customs from the 1st century. Celebrations also used to be called ‘All-Hallows’ (from the term Alhowmesse meaning All Saint’s Day). The night before ‘All Hallows’ began to be called ‘Halloween’.
Today we have more fun approaching this time of the year. We can take advantage of it to become more creative in recovery and really scare the condition and have some fun instead.
Quote of the month:
“Halloween is an opportunity to be really creative.” – Judy Gold
Flying the Nest
Written by Ciara
Ciara, a recovered Freedom Fighter, describes her experience with Marino and how she is set free with her learnings:
“Let the moment go… don’t forget it for a moment though” ~Into The Woods, Broadway Musical
“When you go to Marino, you have this end goal of full recovery, you put in all of the work, face the fears, repeat the mantras to keep you going along your own unique road of recovery…but what happens when you reach the signpost for the road of actually being fully free?
I was enjoying the recovery journey, I loved all of the learnings and all the groups, the new found ability to use my senses to their fullest potential and how I now really felt like the me that I wanted to be. Then things started feeling a bit different, I could sense that my recovery journey was coming to an end and while that evoked a lot of pride and contentment, it also evoked a lot of fear. A fear of moving on from one chapter in my life to the next. I had learnt so much about who I am, my dreams, my opinions and values in that cozy space above the estate agents in Drumcondra. Could I really just leave that all behind and get on with my life without it?
The thing was though that I wasn’t leaving it behind. Not in any way shape or form. My recovery journey is such a big part of me and subsequently, so is Marino. Yes I was moving on and that was by no means the easiest thing to do but with that simple mantra of
“feeling the fear and doing it anyway” on loop in my mind, I knew that this was a challenge that I could and would be able to complete. I had the memories, the learnings and the knowledge that that white wooden door is always open for me to take a notion and pop into a group or few whenever I want to.
Despite all of this though, when the opportunity came up to do something I enjoyed that would take up my Tuesday evenings and Saturday mornings it felt a lot stranger than I had expected it to. Not bad or difficult but…strange. It was strange having the option to spend these time frames somewhere else other than up in the blue carpeted room of Marino. I mean yeah I always had the option as to whether or not I wanted to go to group or not but it felt like a given after a while, Tuesday nights and Saturday mornings were blocked off and that was that, I liked it that way. Doing something other than sitting in that beautifully scented room where there’d always be a joke about the Irish weather or some insightful story to get me thinking, made the change all that more real I guess.
So this is definitely something that’s going to take some getting used to but that’s absolutely okay. It takes time to adapt to any sort of new thing or to have distance from something that you hold very fondly in your heart. I know that Marino and all of the people and learnings (and candles!) that I associate with it will always bring up fond and happy memories for me.
Groups were times to think things through, to ground myself and pay attention to my senses. They were 3 hours in the week that had a rippling effect of calmness and clarity for much longer than 3 hours spent anywhere else would have given me and I’m extremely grateful for that.
I’m excited to learn new things about myself, to have new experiences and to see what I can do with my life without conditions values holding me back. There will still be fears to overcome, things that will stress me out, situations I’ll be apprehensive of diving into but I have the solidified recovery tools to deal with life’s challenges now. I’m glad that I went to as many groups as I needed to and enjoyed each of them and the uniqueness of each and every one. I’m grateful for my recovery journey and I’m grateful for those challenging moments that seemed like they’d never end when I was in the thick of them (spoiler alert; they always did) I’m proud of my journey through recovery and excited for the future. And I’m learning more and more each day to be content with the now in all sorts of situations.
So thank you Marino for guiding me through my recovery, for being nothing short of spectacular and for being there for me to pop in the very first Saturday that the show I’m doing finishes up!”
Dealing With NegativityWritten by Andrea
Do you find it challenging to deal with negativity in a constructive and effective way? Do you find it challenging to tune out from the constant sensationalism and drama around you on a daily basis?
Click here to for some helpful tips with dealing with negativity
The Fudge Factor – Self-Honesty
Written by Tiger-Lily
“… the fudge factor is the ability to misbehave (engage in ED ways) but at the same time convince oneself that they’re not doing any harm and are still honest (eg I did a destructive behavior but I couldn’t help it because everyone is talking about it so how could I not?? Etc etc) We often justify our dishonesty either when it benefits ourselves or protects us from uncomfortable reality. This justification then pushes us into an altered reality where we aren’t seeing everything that’s actually going on properly. This then converts dishonesty into self-deception.”
Click here for more tips & reflections on Self Honesty and Self Deception
Food, Mood and Our Brain
“Certain foods can help improve concentrate, memory or speed a reaction. You need energy for the correct functioning of your body and your brain, this includes regulating neurotransmitters activity and insulin. Neurotransmitters, which are messenger molecules carried between brain cells, directly affect how you feel. If your body is starved of essential nutrients, your brain cannot function properly, leading to low mood and depression. It is important to remember that our brain has no capacity to store energy – it needs to receive a constant supply of fuel.”
Click here to read more on how to increase your mood and brain functionality levels
How Does Alcohol Affect My Blood Sugar Levels?
Many of us recovering from an Eating Distress are familiar with fluctuating blood sugar levels. Very interesting research in relation to how alcohol consumption can negatively effect us when we have issues with our blood sugar levels.
Click here to read more
Men’s Group at MTC
On Thursday November 24th 2016 we will hold our first of many groups that will be exclusively available for men. Young boys and men often find it very challenging when coming forward with their experiences with Eating Distress. We wish to offer men the support and comfort they don’t often experience when dealing with their Recovery and the shame that can often come with that. The group will run from 7.30pm to 9.00pm and will be facilitated by Marie Campion. We will explore the topics of Men & Eating Distress, Dealing with Body Image, Self Esteem Issues & Anxiety. Each group will be €10 and there is no need to book ahead, just simply come along on the evening.
Searching for Sugar Man
This film has so much learning for us all. It is a story of Jesus Rodriguez,a musician from the 1970’s. Rodriguez was a folk singer from Detroit. It seems he had never reached success. Two South African men go on the journey to find out just what happened to this talented musician . There was alot of mystery and unanswered questions around Rodriguez and the film focuses on two men determined to find the answers.
The film explores the beauty of humanity, life, success and the pursuit or dreams. Everybody would benefit from watching this very inspirational, true life movie.
Searching for Sugar Man Official Trailer #1 (2012) – Documentary HD
Recipe of the Month
Spiced Apple and a Pumking Cake
125g (4oz) coconut oil or butter
175g (6oz) dark soft brown sugar
2 free-range eggs, beaten
225g (8oz) plain wholemeal flour
5ml (1 level tsp) ground mixed spice
5ml (1 level tsp) ground cinnamon
10ml (2 level tsp) baking powder
250g (1/2lb) pumking, grated
250g (1/2lb) cooking apples, peeled, cored and chopped
45-60ml (3-4 tbsp) milk
15ml (1 tbsp) runny honey
Grease and line a deep 19 cm (7 inch) round cake tin with greaseproof paper.
Cream the coconut oil or butter and sugar together until pale and fluffy.
Add the eggs, a little at a time, beating well after each addition.
Add the flour, spices and baking powder and mix well.
Fold in the apple, pumking and milk to make a soft consistency.
Turn the mixture into the prepared tin and bake at 170°C (325°F, gas mark 3) for 1½ hours or until well risen and firm to the touch. Turn out on to a wire rack to cool.
When the cake is cold, brush with the honey, maybe you can make some scary faces 🙂
Did you know??
Pumpkins contain Potassium & Vitamin A.
Potassium is a very important mineral for the proper function of all cells, tissues, and organs in the human body.
Vitamin A is good for vision, and helps maintain healthy teeth
How to Deal with Christmas Workshop
Christmas time can be a very challenging time for people suffering from an Eating Distress, and their carers. Our “How to Deal with Christmas”
workshop will provide tips and tools in order to create the Christmas you and your loved one deserve and address any fears that you may have at this time. We will learn to leave condition at the door and have some festive fun, as well as preparing for a great start to 2017.
Topics will include:
Dealing with Christmas Fears
How to have Festive Fun
De-stressing at Christmas & Ways to Sparkle
Relationships, Emotions & Christmas
Have Yourself a Crafty Little Christmas
How can families help someone with ED at Christmas
How to Boost Energy & Festive Foods
How to Have a Great Start in 2017
How to book your place today :
Limited places are available. To book a place call our office on 01 857 6901 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Open to Carers & Sufferers
Holiday Enhancement Therapy (HET) in Lanzarote
HET can aid a person’s recovery, and help to provide or demonstrate real freedom of both body and mind. It helps people to open and use more their senses. The aim would be to highlight what living is, what beauty is around them, and most importantly within them, and encourage and promote their own independence to enjoy their holiday, to enjoy living. This in turn will allow them to use this learning, in their own environment, on their return home. The added bonus is that they can have the benefit and assurance of an Eating Distress Practitioner on hand to continue with recovery, challenge the condition, and to provide hope, and motivation. People can see, in a real situation, recovery in action, not just in theory, in a therapy room. The Eating Distress Practitioner leads by example and assists people to do it for themselves.
What previous HET participants have said :
“It has been the most powerful week in my recovery, even though really emotional! It turned recovery into a special journey. I have been on several programmes abroad and each one I have benefited from immensely, and in ways I am continually learning about myself and about life, appreciating every day and how far I have come and having compassion for myself. In all areas of life intensity is beneficial because its only logical that the more you put into something the more you will get out of it, so why not use this philosophy for recovery. “
Our next HET in Puerto del Carmen, Lanzarote will be available from 10th February 2017 to 6th March 2017. For more information you can contact the MTC office +353 1 857 6901.
Click here to read more
On another note…
We love the idea of other people contributing to our newsletter and sharing their opinions and insights. Please feel free to submit anything that you feel other people would like to read. It can be anything from jokes, poetry, tips which have helped you in the past, your comments or if you just want to let off some steam, anything of interest would be greatly appreciated as we have noticed that every person who walks through MTC doors is multi-talented so go on, put those gifts to use. Simply email us at email@example.com
DATES FOR YOUR DIARY
Men’s Group at MTC
Thursday Nov 24th 2016
4th December 2016
Contact our office on 01 857 6901
Email firstname.lastname@example.org to book a place
Limited places available
Groups Meetings in Marino Therapy Centre:
Tuesdays: 7.30-9.00pm – Sufferers only
Saturdays: 10.30am – 12. 00pm – Carers & Sufferers
**From 26th April 2016 All Tuesday Groups will run from 7.30pm-9.00pm**
Groups in Limerick:
For further information contact Eating Distress practitioner Catherine O Grady at 086 195 3537
or visit www.nirvanatherapycentre.com
Dare to Live
Visit http://daretolivesos.blogspot.ie/ for lots of interesting and helpful recovery articles from people who have personal experiences surviving suicide.