Tips for Self Love this Valentine’s Day

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All you Need is Self Love this Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a day we do not always look forward to. Whether we are single or in a relationship, pressure and comparing can be quite prominent, especially when we are recovering from an Eating Distress. Today, take the opportunity to focus on YOU through the eyes of Self Love.

Ask yourself :
“If I removed the fear and the not good enough, what kind of partner would I like to be to myself?”
” What way would I like to speak to myself?”
” Where would I like to take myself out on a date?”

As I Began To Love Myself

by Charlie Chaplin

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody
As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time
was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this
person was me.
Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health, food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

Self -Love & Relationships

In 1956, psychologist & social philosopher Erich Fromm proposed that loving oneself is different from being arrogant,conceited or egocentric. He proposed that loving oneself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting oneself, and knowing oneself (e.g. being realistic and honest about one’s strengths and weaknesses).In a world where vanity is increasing, true self love seems to be declining. When we are suffering from an Eating Distress we often fear the idea of loving ourselves as it may appear to others as big headed and arrogant, when the reality couldn’t be further from this conditioned thought.Through various behaviours and self-limiting beliefs we are declaring our deficiency of self love. This is an area we must learn to embrace in order to reach Full Freedom.

How do I define Self Love?

What is the difference between Self Love and Vanity?

What are my fears around Self Love?

How does Self Love, or the lack of, affect my relationship with  me and others?

What change would I see in my life if I was to truly love myself?

Useful Recipes when Fueling our Treasure Box (Body)


Preparation time: 5 minutes, Cooking time: 10 minutes.

Ingredients :
1 lb. ground beef
1 jar of medium or hot chunky salsa

2 cans of 15 oz. black beans

2 cans of 8 oz. tomato sauce
1 Tb. Chilli powder
1 cup of frozen corn

1. Cook beef on medium high heat until browned. Drain excess fat from the meat.
2. Drain one can of beans and mash.
3. Add all ingredients to a big pot and mix together. Heat on medium until heated through.
~ Marie ~



125g (4oz) vegetable margarine or butter
175g (6oz) dark soft brown sugar
2 free-range eggs, beaten
225g (8oz) plain wholemeal flour
5ml (1 level tsp) ground mixed spice
5ml (1 level tsp) ground cinnamon
10ml (2 level tsp) baking powder
450g (1lb) cooking apples, peeled, cored and chopped
45-60ml (3-4 tbsp) milk
15ml (1 tbsp) runny honey
15ml (1 level tbsp) light demerara sugar

Method :
1.Grease heart cake tin with greaseproof paper
2.Cream the margarine or butter and sugar together until pale and fluffy.
3.Add the eggs, a little at a time, beating well after each addition.
4.Add the flour, spices and baking powder and mix well.
5.Fold in the apples and milk to make a soft dropping consistency.
6.Turn the mixture into the prepared tin and bake at 170°C (325°F, gas mark 3) for 1½ hours or until well risen and firm to the touch.
7.Turn out on to a wire rack to cool.
8.When the cake is cold, brush with the honey and sprinkle with the demerara sugar.

Parents & Carers Workshop

Due to demand following our previous carers workshop we are delighted to announce that our next Parents & Carers Workshop will be help on April 17th 2016 in The Skylon Hotel .

The following topics will be covered on the day :

Stages of Recovery
Nutritional Issues
Verbal Motivation
How to Prevent Relapses
Helping your loved one to help herself/himself
Steps to your Own Freedom
Questions and Answers

Limited places are available. If you would like to book a place please phone Gerry in the office on 01 857 6901 or email us at
Click here to download a booking form

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Groups Meetings in Marino Therapy Centre:

Tuesdays: 8. 00pm – 9. 30pm – Sufferers only

Saturdays: 10.30am – 12. 00pm – Carers & Sufferers

Groups in Limerick:
For further information contact Eating Distress practitioner Catherine O Grady at 086 195 3537
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