Welcome to our November Newsletter. November is a month that you either love it or hate it. It can be a month for spirituality. Many people with faith celebrate The Day of Holy Souls on the 1st of November. Maybe we can use the dark evenings for some spirituality.
**Reminder that Groups will run as normal on Christmas Eve and News Years Eve.**
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What is Spirituality?
As we cultivate stillness and commune with the presence within, we are mightily enhanced.
Our bodies resonate spiritual messages. Listen to them.
Keeping our hearts happy is a lot like keeping our bodies healthy. We need to feed our hearts well through loving.
What is Spirituality?
How spiritual do you feel?
What is spirituality for you?
Do you call yourself a spiritual person?
Do you feel spiritual about your body?
Spirituality is belief in an ultimate or an alleged immaterial reality, an inner path enabling a person to discover the essence of his/her being; or the deepest values and meaning by which people live.
To many people suffering from ED, having a meaningful life, means being busy all the time. It is true that we need activities that gets us outside of ourselves, but we can easily become too busy. By using ED as a crutch, many of us are leaving many projects unfinished and drifting to accomplish many things without knowing why, left with the feeling that we are never succeeding.
We often feel we must make up for lost time now. The problem with this approach is that we do not know how to be still with a quiet mind and know the peace of a truly meaningful life. We need to learn to become quiet; we need to practice freeing our minds of self-destructive thoughts and learn how to be silent. Serenity helps us to have a spiritual experience. We can sense that we are safe, in good hands, and that the pain or turmoil of our lives is passing.
Everyone has a purpose in life. Very few people know what theirs is. Spirituality helps us to find ours. It cannot be created it needs to be discovered. The spiritual part of us includes our values and our beliefs. When we get in touch with the spiritual aspect of ourselves, it may help us to overcome our Eating Distress. Spirituality provides life fullness and can fulfill our emptiness. When we fill ourselves spiritually there is less need to fill it up with other substances which we use for emotional reasons.
Sometimes we use more energy to control our weight and our eating and we spend less energy getting in touch with our spiritual self. Our bodies are so much more than what we see in the mirror. They are the home of our soul, they house our history, they have memories. We get messages from our bodies, when in ED, we we barely sense them. We need to learn to listen to these messages and get tune with them.
Each day that we rely on our spiritual connection to clarify our direction, we will discover the serenity to clarify our direction. Our spiritual part will help us to discover the serenity that enhances our being.
Let’s look at Recovery as a spiritual experience, and many aspects will get easier &more interesting…
Have a nice month full of Spiritual connections….
Men’s Group at MTC
On Thursday November 24th 2016
we will hold our first of many groups that will be exclusively available for men. Young boys and men often find it very challenging when coming forward with their experiences with Eating Distress. We wish to offer men the support and comfort they don’t often experience when dealing with their Recovery and the shame that can often come with that. The group will run from 7.30pm to 9.00pm
and will be facilitated by Marie Campion. We will explore the topics of Men & Eating Distress, Dealing with Body Image, Self Esteem Issues & Anxiety
. Each group will be €10 and there is no need to book ahead, just simply come along on the evening.
Men & Eating Distress
Magazines, newspapers, television, radio programmes and books describe Eating Distress as mostly a female issues. Males also develop this condition, and not only in recent times.
In 1964, London physician, Richard Morton reported the first case of anorexia nervosa in 16-year old male. Admitting to an eating disorder is difficult to anyone, but even more difficult for males due to the perceived notion that only females suffer from this illness. The number of females open to receiving treatment exceed that of males, males suffer in silence and isolation much more.
The National Centre for Health Statistics (USA) states that 48% of males are trying to lose weight. Men undergo 25% of all cosmetic surgeries in USA.
Male sufferers were overlooked and understudied. Many programs are treating female suffers only. Males struggling with Eating Distress were often teased more about their bodies while growing up and were preferred less for athletic teams. In the last twenty years reported cases of males with Eating Distress have been steadily increasing. Media and professionals are paying more attention to this issue. An Article in the Los Angeles Times 1995, stated that roughly one million males in USA are suffering from Eating Distress. In 1996, Dennis Brown, a Super Bowl defensive end, revealed that he used laxative, diuretics, and self-induced vomiting to control his weight. He was reprimanded by coaches and team officials that he was embarrassing the organisation.
Men’s bodies are more frequently the targets of advertising campaigns; leanness for men is increasingly being emphasised, and the number of male dieters and males reporting an Eating Disorder continues to rise. Very often, men with Eating Disorders are intensely athletic and have begun dieting in order to attain greater sports achievement or from fear of gaining weight because of sport injury. Many men may fit another proposed but not yet accepted diagnostic category, referred to as compulsive exercise and compulsive athleticism.
According to Dr.Arnold Andersen, who wrote book on this subject, Males with Eating Disorders/Brunner/Mazel, 1990/ definitive answers are not available, but sociocultural influences appear to play a much bigger roles than biological ones. Male sufferers does not have a loss of a period as a symptom, and therefore it is common to misdiagnose or overlook them. Malnutrition also affects the male’s ability to procreate and loss of sexual interest.
Men with Eating Distress exhibit an over-whelming fear of fatness and desire to maintain a masculine appearance or shape. It’s neither surprising nor uncommon to see males with Eating Distress overuse anabolic steroids to improve muscle tone and build strength. Side effects of steroid abuse may include several psychiatric symptoms, such as hallucinations, manic symptoms and depression. Medical side effects may include reduced sexual functioning. Characteristics of men who exercise extensively are similar to those of the female ones. Men become obsessed with exercising and view their worth according to how much they exercise. It becomes an addiction. Male jockeys, wrestlers, swimmers, and dancers see physical appearance as being vital to their success. This makes them more vulnerable to Eating Distress. Males who were wrestlers in high school and college often continue their bulimic trends after they give up the sport.
It is difficult for men to reach out and ask for help because this condition is still very much considered as a ’women’s disease’. Many people automatically assume if a man has as eating disorder, then he must be gay. That is not true at all. Someone’s sexual preference has nothing to do with them developing as Eating Distress. The reason men develop Eating Distress is no different then why a woman, child or anyone else would. They are super-sensitive and were subjected to more anxiety and negativity in the past. They experience the same feelings as anyone else. They have very low self-esteem, are often perfectionists, over achievers and use this condition for expressing their emotions because they do not know any better way. Recovery is a ‘finding’ or ‘re-discovery’ of the self that has only been experienced under the crippling and distorted influence of an Eating Distress. The focus needs to be placed on developing new ways of coping with stress other than through dysfunctional behaviours.
Click here to read more on a male’s perspective on ED
Written By Classmate
Sometimes I hear sufferers ask for little tips on how to stay motivated for recovery. I used to be forever asking! I opened my iPad on the bus and saw the little row of stickers on the top that I had been given in two different workshops in Marino Therapy Centre, a few years back! When I see the stickers I always think of my freedom. It always pulls me to that little room in Drumcondra.
I like anchors because they can’t help but make us think of recovery or whatever else we want to remember. Don’t think of the pink recovery elephant. I said DON’T think of the pink recovery elephant. Hehe, see?
So from my experience, may I suggest you collect some anchors and dot them around.
I particularly like the anchors given to me by someone associated with recovery. But honestly anything works. I stuck quotes on my walls. I hung a little Styrofoam egg in the car that I got in an Easter group that was celebrating change. My wallet had a baby wrist band (from a maternity hospital) to remind me that I want to be able to have a baby (still the dream!!). I have stickers stuck on such random things. Someone gave me little travel worry dolls when I was going to live in America and they live in my wallet. I got a little teddy in group once and he lived in my handbag for almost a year. I took him on college placements when the panic attacks were bad. There are so many more anchors I used but I just can’t think of them right now.
One anchor was a shell that X gave me, and after a year I had no idea what its significance was. All I knew was that it had some other bigger meaning haha. It didn’t matter though, it still anchored me to freedom. So don’t worry, it doesn’t have to be intellectual or deep. The shell meant recovery. Simple.
I like anchors is because it’s “easy” to be all motivated and excited for recovery while sitting in Marino Therapy Centre. Then you leave and it’s like the negativity comes crashing in. So we need as many reminders as possible!
You’re not alone… 🙂
By Blue Eyed Bird
Now that the cage is open
Clearly the choice is mine
To take a leap of faith
Or maintain being continually f.i.n.e.
The goal posts keep moving
Constant excuses always there
I turn my back on colour
Snuggling into conditions lair.
You can’t hate yourself into love
Life does not thrive on being numb
Use free people as examples
Self respect will solve this sum
You are not just a body
Much more than a dull size
You’re an abundance of light and beauty
Regardless of conditions lies.
The reasons to recover are endless
Different talents we all possess
Life is not meant to be perfect
Dance, laugh and simply enjoy the mess!
Have you ever allowed yourself to have a dream in life? Have you ever felt like giving up? Have you ever thought there is no point just give up now? Well then you MUST see this month’s film therapy recommendation, Joy. Jennifer Lawrence play the part of Joy Mangano, whom today is a self made millionaire, but her journey was filled with many obstacles, critics and people trying to put her down. If there is one film you watch this month let it be this. The film is realistic and raw, portraying the facts about how dreams are made and not just wished for. A true recovery motivator.
JOY | Official Trailer | 20th Century FOX
How Recovery Now can Speed up Recovery
“From Recovering to Recovered to Practitioner, I still use Recovery Now to this day”
At the beginning I was very unaware of what was going on with me exactly. I knew A LOT about Eating Distress, but never applied it to myself. I was only a teenager when my Mam made me aware of “Recovery Now – 365 Tips to Rid Yourself of an Eating Distress”.I was very much in denial at the time, so she told me to ignore the part about Eating Distress on the front page, and just read a tip each day. So I did. I wasn’t fully aware of what I was “recovering” from, but I knew I was sad, lonely and didn’t feel good enough. I had “Recovery Now” beside my bed for 2 years and every single day before I went to school I read a tip. It grounded me, simplified things & thoughts for me, and helped me focus for the day. I was taking each day at a time. From recovering to being recovered, to today, an Eating Distress Practitioner I cannot recommend enough how much Recovery Now can speed up your Recovery. It enhances self discipline and the encourages practicing of the theory we learn. Going out and doing recovery, not just talking about it. In any other aspect of my life, when I was learning something, if someone recommended a resource that would help simplify the topic , I would jump at the chance of availing of it.
“Recovery Now “ can be purchased by contacting our office on +353 1 857 69 01 or email email@example.com
Recipe of the Month
Beef Aubergine Bake
Preparation time: 35 minutes
Cooking time_ 1 ½ hour gas mark 6 (180C)
450g mince lean beef
1 tablespoon of cold press olive oil
2 teaspoons coconut oil
250g Parmesan cheese sliced
250g-mozzarella cheese, grated
100 g ground almonds
1 clove of garlic (crushed)
2 large aubergines, thinly sliced
1 onion, diced
10 medium mushrooms, diced
1 red pepper
1 400g can tomatoes
5 medium tomatoes, chopped
1/21 teas spoon dried oregano
1 1/2 teaspoon sage
6 basil leaves
- Heat the oil in a pan.
- Add onion, mushrooms, peppers, garlic and herbs and simmer for 5 minutes.
- Add mincemeat & cook for 10 minutes
- Add chopped fresh tomatoes and a can of tomatoes, cook for 15 minutes.
- In a baking dish prepare sliced aubergines, brushed on both sides with olive oil. Layer slices of aubergine, cooked mince meat and cheese.
- Repeated 3 times.
- Finish with mincemeat mixture and few aubergines for decoration on the top, sprinkle with Parmesan cheese on the top and bake for one hour until the top is golden.
- Enjoy 🙂
Training Day for Guidance Counsellors & Teachers
Suicide, Self Harm and Eating Disorders in the School Environment
As part of ‘Marino Therapy Centre School Initiative Project M.S.I.P.’, our centre is running a Training Day for Teachers and Guidance Counsellors on How to Deal with Suicide, Self Harm and Eating Disorders in the School Environment on Monday 13th March 2017 from 9.30am to 4.00pm.
Understanding Self Harm, Suicide and Eating Disorders
Application of Psycholinguistic Motivational Model
Skills for managing and assessing Self Harm and Suicide
Effective Tools for Dealing with Obesity
How to use Nutrition to Enhance Positive Mental Health
Questions & Answers
: 9.00am to 4.00pm
€130 (Lunch included)
Skylon Hotel, Upper Drumcondra Rd, Dublin 9
Limited places available
To book your place contact our office on 01 857 69 01 or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Holiday Enhancement Therapy (HET) in Lanzarote
HET can aid a person’s recovery, and help to provide or demonstrate real freedom of both body and mind. It helps people to open and use more their senses. The aim would be to highlight what living is, what beauty is around them, and most importantly within them, and encourage and promote their own independence to enjoy their holiday, to enjoy living. This in turn will allow them to use this learning, in their own environment, on their return home. The added bonus is that they can have the benefit and assurance of an Eating Distress Practitioner on hand to continue with recovery, challenge the condition, and to provide hope, and motivation. People can see, in a real situation, recovery in action, not just in theory, in a therapy room. The Eating Distress Practitioner leads by example and assists people to do it for themselves.
What previous HET participants have said :
“It has been the most powerful week in my recovery, even though really emotional! It turned recovery into a special journey. I have been on several programmes abroad and each one I have benefited from immensely, and in ways I am continually learning about myself and about life, appreciating every day and how far I have come and having compassion for myself. In all areas of life intensity is beneficial because its only logical that the more you put into something the more you will get out of it, so why not use this philosophy for recovery. “
Our next HET in Puerto del Carmen, Lanzarote will be available from 10th February 2017 to 6th March 2017. For more information you can contact the MTC office +353 1 857 6901.
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On another note…
We love the idea of other people contributing to our newsletter and sharing their opinions and insights. Please feel free to submit anything that you feel other people would like to read. It can be anything from jokes, poetry, tips which have helped you in the past, your comments or if you just want to let off some steam, anything of interest would be greatly appreciated as we have noticed that every person who walks through MTC doors is multi-talented so go on, put those gifts to use. Simply email us at email@example.com
DATES FOR YOUR DIARY
Men’s Group at MTC
Thursday Nov 24th 2016
4th December 2016
Contact our office on 01 857 6901
Email firstname.lastname@example.org to book a place
Limited places available
Groups Meetings in Marino Therapy Centre:
Tuesdays: 7.30-9.00pm – Sufferers only
Saturdays: 10.30am – 12. 00pm – Carers & Sufferers
**From 26th April 2016 All Tuesday Groups will run from 7.30pm-9.00pm**
Groups in Limerick:
For further information contact Eating Distress practitioner Catherine O Grady at 086 195 3537
or visit www.nirvanatherapycentre.com
Dare to Live
Visit http://daretolivesos.blogspot.ie/ for lots of interesting and helpful recovery articles from people who have personal experiences surviving suicide.