Respect, Manners & Recovery

Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use – Emily Post 

Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners –Laurence Sterne

Respect : feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.

When is the last time you asked yourself the definition of respect? Do you spend more time worrying what people think of you, or do you ask yourself am I being respectful towards this person?

In today’s society I hear a lot about the wage against the war on human rights. With new world leaders, the wish to change amendments, the fight for the justice of all genders and animals, this world certainly looks like it wants change. Beyond the surface level, how many campaigners or “activists” are 100% respecting they’re own bodies, minds, emotions and more importantly, the people they meet on a daily basis? How many of us are trying to fight against the injustice and disrespect on an international or national level, when on a personal level respect is few and far between?

“I’m a human activist”. A much more popular sentence I hear these days. When did we decide there is a difference between being a compassionate respectful human being and a “human activist?” Do not get me wrong, the fight to protect the people, the ocean, the forest, the animals, the east and the west is all very important, but if you are trying to do this and do not respect yourself or the people in your more immediate circles, you might aswell be handing out rotten apples. Global change starts from within.

Before you place yourself nicely on that lovely high horse, ask yourself a few questions.

Do my actions & reactions show respect to my parents/carers/housemates?

Do my actions & reactions show respect to myself?

Do my actions & reactions show respect to my body?

Do my actions & reactions show respect to my colleagues?

Do my actions & reactions show respect to my practitioner?

Yes, the condition results in having a lot of disrespectful thoughts, leading to disrespectful behaviours, but I know many who have recovered and not disrespected the many people around them. We can take responsibility to put more energy into respecting those around us and their needs. When our self-esteem is very low , it is much easier to become very self-consumed, but practicing the awareness of respect will help to build up your self-esteem as well as those around you.

Why not start today.

How can I start practicing more respect for myself & those around me today?