Everybody, without any exception, goes through difficult situations sometimes in his or her life. In our case we turn to our condition as a crutch. We turn to food, over-exercising or starvation.
What do we actually hunger for in these times?
We don’t always feel comfortable with admitting that what we really hunger for; security, love, adventure, accomplishment, recognition and many others.
Our condition’s symptoms express our other needs. We use food pyramids to nourish our bodies – so why not use a “needs pyramid” to nourish ourselves mentally and spiritually? This pyramid would reflect our needs, one on top of the other, After satisfying one need, one hunger, we move to the next. Our basic hunger is hunger for peace; this hunger is very deep. We often call it happiness.
From the time food became an effective tranquilliser for us, it also became a barrier between us and peace. It numbed us so much that we could not see our real needs.
If anything from now on does not go the way you would like it to and you start to have cravings, start to ask as well: What need is at the top of my pyramid?
- Biological and Physiological needs – air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.
- Safety needs – protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.
- Belongingness and Love needs – work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.
- Esteem needs – self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.
- Cognitive needs – knowledge, meaning, etc.
- Aesthetic needs – appreciation and search for beauty, balance, form, etc.
- Self-Actualization needs – realising personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences.
- Transcendence needs – helping others to achieve self actualization.
(Maslow’s 1990’s adapted hierarchy of needs)
Check them all and then make a decision about what you really are hungry for.
Affirmation for today:From now on I recognise my needs