‘Loneliness is the poverty of self, solitude is the richness of self.’

(May Sarton)

All of us, if we are honest and aware of ourselves, can admit to feeling lonely at some stage or other in our lives. Our modern, hectic society contributes to these types of feelings, more than societies many centuries ago did. Often we presume that we feel lonely because we are on our own, but we can feel lonely even if we are with others, and sometimes this sort of loneliness is harder to handle. This is the loneliness that reminds us that we are not lonely with people we are lonely with ourselves. To enjoy other people’s company we need to realise that everybody has somebody in life they can be with. Often, however, the hardest thing to do is to reach out. Recovery is not about emotional and social isolation; it is the opposite of that.

When you feel alone, remind yourself that there are people who want to be with you. Let yourself imagine what it would be like to be with each of them. Learn to interact. Share yourself with others. Connect yourself with people not just physically, but mentally.

You can be alone, but let this be by choice when you realise that there are also many people who you can be with. People who you can talk to, people who understand how you are feeling. You are never lonely when you know you have that kind of support.

I am realising my own ability to comfort myself.