In 2016, MTC held 104 Recovery classes. We would like to take the opportunity to thank everyone who joined us over the year. Your presence and contributions are appreciated by many. In our Recovery classes/groups therapy, we learn from one another. By sharing our learning and realisations we are not only helping ourselves in our Recovery, but many others. Here is a synopsis from what we learnt in 2016:
Your values are the beliefs that define what is most important to you. They guide each of your choices in life. For example, someone who values family might try to spend extra time at home, while someone who values success in their career may do just the opposite. Understanding your values will help you recognize areas of your life need more attention, and what to prioritize in the future.
The ability to learn to express clearly and creatively can lead us to a deeper level of understanding and self-discovery, it is an important tool for leading a well-balanced life.
Self-discipline in recovery means training ourselves to be firm with ED and let go the condition and make balance choices in our life. Becoming self-disciplined is a core part of mental wellness. It helps us to realise where do we procrastinate and where do we need to pay more attention.
The Body is part of us. We only have one and it is for life. The more grateful we feel about our bodies, the happier and more content we are.
How can you use more creativity in Your Recovery? Feel the joy and satisfaction of creating something innovative and unique. If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.
‘I’m not good enough, and nothing I ever do is ever good enough’ is a total negation of self. The entire self has been rejected, and consigned to the scrap heap. It is time to make a change and to start to enjoy being good enough!
People who accept themselves are not over-critical of themselves or others; they are both compassionate and realistic. They look at themselves as they are and strive for a better understanding of what they want to change. We cannot remove a problem until we accept we have one.
We live in times when we value information more than an experience. We collect so much information without questioning and learning.
Our body wants to communicate with us, we need to accept it as our friend and to take care of it. Relationship with your body is relationship for life – it can be a great one – give a chance :):):)
We need to ask ourselves what does being healthy actually mean to us? So many of us are striving for this goal but do we even know where we are going?
Our body and our mind need proper care or they work against us. Mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health goes hand in hand.
Self-neglect is barrier to freedom, Self-care, self-love is your Freedom.
When we ruminate about the disappointments and stressors we get stuck in the problem, not a solution. Rumination makes life harder and eventually damages many of our relationships.
Simplicity is the bridge to recovery and it will lead us towards the light…..
What we get from life depends as much on our attitude and self-belief as on opportunities.
We create our own heave and our own hell by how we interpret and react to events.
Sensitivity is a gift, but you need to use it to your advantage.
Excellence – being willing to try new things, take risks, and learn from our mistakes.
Perfectionism – avoiding new experiences because we are terrified of making mistakes.
Conquering our perfectionism will release other abilities we didn’t know we had and will make life easier, more relaxed, more satisfying and more fun.
Recovery is re-discovering and re-claiming our own values. Recovery is letting of the self-destructive, condition’s values.
In order to progress in our Recovery we sometimes need to STOP, RE-EVALUATE and MOVE ON. Recovery is all about building bridges and solid foundation.
Resentment keeps us in a rigid judgment of who “should” and “shouldn’t” get or experience certain things in life. The emotion comes from replaying situations over and over in our head without any questioning or learning attached to it.
As human beings, we are a part of nature, we are capable of many great things, nobody is the special snowflake, this rule applies to everyone no matter how loud the voice in your head is say “Yeah, well not for me”. This is the voice of fear. This is the condition. This is not you.
In order to progress from one level of recovery to another I must consistently act upon self-honesty and not ignore the real me’s thoughts that can recognize the ED choice and the free choice.
Real self-worth comes from living a life coherent with your values. It is an inner state- a calmness, a sense of stillness and acceptance of who you are and what you stand for. We are worthy because we are alive, because we exist. ‘God makes no junk’.
The principle of transformation is that life change comes from the inside out. If you want the world change, you have to change.
Many of us can relate to the fact that Recovered is something we all want to be, but Recovery isn’t always something we want to do. On our journey to Freedom, it can often be quite challenging to stay enthusiastic about the process, but the secret is, the more enthusiasm we have for Recovery, the quicker we can get to Full Freedom.
Some people under value what they are and over value what they are not’ this is one of my favourite quotes and it links into expectations, the ‘shoulds’ condition places on us, comparing life to other peoples, thinking I ‘should’ be somewhere else or doing something else.
Awareness and dealing with recovery obstacles can make the recovery journey lighter and brighter.
You see so much more when you pay attention to the situation you are in, instead of trying to whip yourself into the next one.
Recovery doesn’t need to be always a hard work. It can be just more noticing beauty in small things around us and a lot of repetition.
The ED condition hijacks sensitivity. It misinterprets this gift as a failing and an annoyance. And tries to make us believe that it is the root of all our problems. It’s not. The condition is! Recovery allows us to harness sensitivity, and to use it to our advantage to deepen our relationships and really connect to this life we are all muddling through.
Feelings are your own high tech, top of the range Sat-Nav system. They direct you through life and help you to avoid break downs (caused by exhaustion etc) or traffic jams. They can tell you when you need me time, more self-care, a nap, a walk outdoors, a chat with a friend, a night out! Every feeling tells you something.
The more we are learning in recovery and the more knowledge and tools we are enabling ourselvesself to have to battle against ED, is helping us to slowly bring “true” contentment back into our life and a proper understanding that it can be interpreted as a true happiness.
Beauty is not only the physical that you see of people. When I think of people that I believe are the most beautiful people I know it’s not because they look like they’ve stepped out of a magazine, it’s because of how they hold themselves, what they believe in, their uniqueness, their values, their love of life!!
My main learning has been just how beautiful humanity is!
Money is so closely connected to condition, deserving and being good enough. Essentially the way we use money shows us how we think about ourselves. Have we a future? Are we good enough? These money behaviours are driven by fear. In recovery it may take a while to value something that we do for ourselves.
The class/group on attractiveness was interesting to me the other night. From people’s sharing one massive theme emerged as far as I could see. And that was there’s a conflict between what people said they believed was attractive and what they really felt was attractive.
It is important to value what we bring to each day. We may not see what an impact we have on people by just being yourself, so instead of trying to cure the world, start with you and be an inspiration of Freedom!
We need to think assertively before we can behave assertively.
Over-analysing got me no place, only tying myself in knots and imagining scenarios that didn’t even exist.
Some of us build beautiful ivory towers, and try to convince ourselves that we will come down when we are ready. But the reality is that we are lonely and scared.
Recovery is an active process. It’s not something where we can tick the box or read the book and be grand; it’s an active, involved and committed journey.
Self-acceptance doesn’t close the door on change. On the contrary, it can open up our inner resources so that we can explore ourselves in a more relaxed way.
Beliefs are what cause some individuals to make the most of their lives, and become heroes. Beliefs are what keep some people in desperation.
Recovery is not just letting go of destructive behaviours, but also an understanding of what our life is about.
Our subconscious mind reacts to stories. We can identify and learn from them about our values, about our choices, they can help us to have realizations.
Being gentle with ourselves is how we heal, being harsh and valuing deprivation is how we stay stuck and trapped in a small painful, scary life.
These are some learning, thanks again everyone for joining us:)