A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked. “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
The outwards behaviour of person with an ED is to avoid change as much is possible. The condition keeps one frozen in time. A sufferer’s life is stuck and doesn’t grow. The resulting pain of that stagnation can be overwhelming and generally leads to destructive behaviours.
. The principle of transformation is that life change comes from the inside out. If you want the world change, you have to change.
We are all personally responsible for the state of the entire world because the world only mirrors our inner selves. Pollution, famine, and disease are reflective of the inner crisis gripping us individually, and therefore collectively. Many people with ED focus more on changing the world and instead changing themselves first. Our mission is not to set the whole world right, but learn and change ourselves first.
Change can be little and quite and still be vastly important. Following some guidelines to help with change:
- It feels bad at first, then it starts to feel better
- Significant change takes time
- The first step to changing is thinking about the change
- Give yourself room for errors (learning)
- Change requires taking a risk
- Feel the fear but do what you need to do anyway
- It doesn’t matter if the change is large or small, either can have a positive impact on your life and your self-esteem
- Be sure to give yourself credit for any change you make
What stop you moving from this stage to full freedom?
What helped you to get to this stage?
What concerns you have about eating distress behaviour?
If you were now fully free what would be like?
Is there anything that you found helpful in previous attempts to change?
What have you learn from the way things went last time you tried?
If you decided to change what your options be?
Do you know of any ways that have worked for other people?