Written by Classmate
Dream (noun): a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.
It’s ok to have dreams. You’re not foolish. You’re still living in the real world. You’re not deluding yourself. Ok so now that I have that out of the way, here are some of the learnings from group:
Yes, you do deserve to dream. There’s no harm in dreaming as sometimes it can be the only thing that keeps a person going.
Grab a pen and put ink to paper. Nobody is saying you have to ‘achieve’ every dream you put on the list, just think of it as brainstorming initially. Be brave. Ah go on.
You don’t need to tell anyone your dreams. They can be super personal. And if they come true, you also don’t need to tell anyone. Therefore, feel free to dream about whatever you want.
Don’t forget the action. Dreams don’t work if you don’t work.
Keep it simple. What do you need to do to get to where you want to be? What are the steps? Chunk it down to manageable steps.
Support yourself on the way. Who is on your team? Let them support you and guide you if you’re lost. Eventually you will learn to guide yourself.
It’s ok to change your dreams. Dreams you had as a child may not be dreams you have now. That’s grand. Dreams change as you change. They evolve.
Own your dreams. It’s grand too if your dream is something that everyone else thinks is daft. Who cares what they think? It’s not their dream anyway so they can mind their own business.
If your dream comes true, remember to notice it and practice gratitude. At one point in your life this was something that you really wanted and might have sold your Granny for. Appreciate it. Say ‘well done me’.
Dreams can be about achieving a state of mind. It can be about seeing the world, and seeing yourself, in a completely new light. It can be as simple as learning not to sweat the small stuff.
Invest in your dreams. Put the time and energy and effort into them. You’re worth it. It’s important not to wait around expecting something to fall from the sky and into your lap. Life doesn’t work like that.
Enjoy the process of actualising your dream. You may as well enjoy the ride, and time passes anyway. Remember to say ‘well done me’ as you start to make little steps in the direction you want to go.
Wake up. Literally open your eyes to the world around you and realise that nobody is stopping you doing most of the stuff you dream about. Want to recover? Then recover. The only person stopping you is yourself.
Fail? Fail better next time. If you want to actualise a dream, then you’re probably going to need to get used to failing and for life to veer from The Plan. That’s grand, because even failures give you something to work with. What did you learn?
Follow the excitement. If you’re not sure what your dreams are, then just think about what sparks a bit of joy and excitement in your life. This could be a signal of your dreams.
There’s no dream too big or small. If your dream is to be able to order in a restaurant without a committee sitting down in your head to decide if you’ve chosen correctly, then fab. Dream that. It’s a great dream. Want to dream about having your own home? Do that. A relationship? Go for it!
Think of ‘the secret’ and the law of attraction. If you say that you want something, you will start to subconsciously make decisions and do actions in the direction of that thing you said you wanted. Want to be free? Say it loud and proud, and slowly you will inch your way closer until the day you wake up and realise your dream has come true.
Collect role models. Particularly the ones that have overcome adversity. You’re not a special snowflake. If they can overcome something, so can you. Why are you so special that nothing good will happen for you? 😛
It’s ok to borrow other people’s dreams if you’re lost. Snoop around and listen to other people’s bucket lists. They can help you get ideas of what you like and don’t like.
Nothing worth having comes easy. It can come simply, yes! But usually there’s a bit of hard work that needs to come along too. In the words of Beyonce: “I dream it, I work hard, I grind ’til I own it”.
If you’re sitting in absolute blackness right now, then maybe the dream could be that a light comes on. That the coldness and harshness leaves your bones. I remember a time when all I really wanted was to feel a little less sh** about everything. It was a pretty basic dream, and one that came true.
Don’t compare. Her dream is her dream. If she actualises her dream, then choose to be inspired and motivated, instead of jealous and bitter. Jealousy is an indicator of what we want in life. If you’re jealous of someone, the fab, you have figured out something that you want. Add it to the list of dreams. No guilt.
Update the dream list regularly. The sad reality is that we can’t do everything in life. You do need to prioritise a bit. And sometimes it’s better to pick just a couple of things to work towards, instead of getting in a tizzy trying to do everything. If you don’t know how to choose what to work towards first, then figure out what is most in line with your values.
Don’t scare yourself away from your dream. You can be scared and still work towards your dream. In fact, I bet most people who actualise a dream were probably pretty scared a lot of the time. Take it as an indicator that this matters to you.
Look, there is still a point in going through the motions of dreaming, even if you may end up disappointed. A little disappointment never killed anyone. You will be able to handle it. You’ve survived disappointment before. You’ll survive it again. Don’t let the fear of disappointment get in the way.
Take a risk on yourself. Ok it might not work out, grand, do something else. People on their death bed are often quoted in saying they wished they took more risks. They regret the stuff they didn’t do; the stuff they didn’t try. Don’t die wondering ‘what if’. Get out there and make it happen. Die with memories, not dreams.
Get out of your own way.
Who cares if people judge you for your dreams? As long as the sun rises there will be someone on the sidelines judging and commenting. God love them. How unhappy and unfulfilled they must be. Let them judge. Caring about others judgement is a decision you make. Choose not to care.
If you’ve been recovering a little while already, then reflect on how things have changed in such a short time. Use this to energise yourself! If you can achieve that in such a short few months, imagine what you’ll achieve in a year.
Fuel the body. Or in the word’s of J: your dream making machine lol. A starved brain is probably not that creative on the dreams front… as it will be busy being preoccupied by food and negativity. Feed yourself and it’ll give you the energy to get dreaming.
Just start. What are you waiting for? Divine intervention? Get up and get going. You can do it. I can do it. Let’s get the show on the road.