Written by Yvonne
The topic of connection keeps headbutting my curiosity lately. It’s stubbornly demanding to be explored and the more I unravel the intricate twine of the topic, the more I see there is to understand. So I figure I could do with making a start on it..
Connection permeates so many areas of our lives and the functioning, well-being and conditioning of our society as a whole. It has an intense capacity to grow, nurture and mend so many of our perceived issues, yet I think sometimes, we’re not really sure how to even utilise it. Social media subtly confuses our definition of friendships, the line between surface level and genuine exchanges is blurry, we’re losing ourselves in attempts to find others.
It’s as though we’re told the opportunity to connect is right there, right in front of us, and we can see it, we can, but in reaching out we hit a pane glass window instead. We can see but we can’t feel. We’re looking in from the outside. And we’re just ending up alone, out of the loop..and with sore heads.
For some of us, in a social media saturated world, I don’t think we’ve ever felt more disconnected.
But it’s by no means just social media. Our disconnection goes deeper, its branches fall across our paths of knowing who we are, listening to our bodies, appreciating our talents, interacting with others, finding what we want to do, hearing our intuition. It’s what is keeping us and our full contented lives at arm’s reach.
Maybe we think we disconnect because we’re shy or sensitive or quiet, or we’re weird, we don’t fit in, we sit on the outskirts of conversations. Or maybe we’re just living on the outskirts of our own lives. Drifting. Detached. Disconnected, disinterested and depressed.
But maybe we’re also the ones carefully crafting secret creations that the world has yet to see. The ones with stories to tell, afraid to use our own voices. The ones who have achieved something but are hesitant to celebrate it. The ones dreaming of something bigger but not reaching for it. The ones with solutions and answers but no audience we’re ready to tell.
Are we connecting to the contributions we can make?
Is it any wonder we don’t feel content? Our callings, our curiosity, our own unique perspective – are we connected to these? Are we connecting to others who are similar? Are we allowing ourselves connect to the things we enjoy doing, the things we’re good at, the things that aren’t going to pay the bills but man do they make us smile? Are we doing something about this feeling of inherent isolation? Are we aiming to climb closer to true committed connection?
Big topic. Lots of questions; I’m still unravelling this one and the many paths I’d like to go with it. But I do know that I believe wholeheartedly in the significance, strength and power of connection. I know that in learning to connect to my life, I’ve only ever gained more appreciation, wonder and excitement about it. So I’d like to encourage more of it, obviously.
I won’t indulge into my investigations more just yet as they remain very much all over the place, but one thing I would like to initiate on the back of my musings is ‘Dare to Share.’
In order to create real connections, we of course need to actually be real. We need to use the tools of modern life that we have in a way that constructs something more authentic, something richer and ultimately more connected. In Daring to Share, we can spread a healthy dose of humanity, reality and authenticity amidst the world of social media. We can use what we have to get more connected, to share insights, inspirations, solutions, hobbies. All the substantial stuff that makes up the star of that selfie; the soulful substance that we may have been secluding from our showreel.
Whatever it is that stops us – be it shame, stigma or just straight up being scarlet – we need to start overcoming our conflicted commitment to silence and begin by sharing.
Shame cannot survive in the spoken word.
We need to own our shit and then learn to conquer it. Learn to communicate with it and begin a conversation towards victory. We need to share what that’s like.
We need to connect to what makes us feel – what makes us afraid and excited and joyful and nervous and alive.
We need to share these things. These beautiful, natural, raw, vulnerable human things.
The things we like doing, the things that we notice in the day, the things that make us stop and take a photo, the things we find helpful, the things that make us forget to look at our phones, the things that make us smile. The things we’ve achieved, the things we’re proud of, the things that we’ve created.
We need to Dare to Share.
And dare to liberate ourselves toward being more human, more authentic and truly more connected to ourselves, our lives and the world around us.
As we come into the new year, the @daretoliveSOS Instagram and @marinotc will be capturing our sharings as they come with the hashtag #daretoshare