We all need to own our own definition of contentment
Written by Classmate
When you think of the word Contentment, what do you think immediately?
What first thoughts that come to my mind when I think of the word “contentment” was conditions variation of the meaning to list a few:
- Suppression of true feelings,
- Busy mind,
- Negative self-talk,
- Destructive thinking,
- Obstacles and challenges = Destructive behaviours.
All of the above show how much condition was there and would not allow myself to have contentment within my life, ED is basically the opposite too real contentment.
I suppose the more I am learning in recovery and the more knowledge and tools I am enabling myself to have to battle against ED, is helping me to slowly bring “true” contentment back into my life and a proper understanding that it can be interpreted as a true happiness, but it can have an even deeper hidden meaning.
A few tips and tricks I picked up from group to help get me to true contentment within my life, I felt might help others to do the same. Here are the ingredients to true
- Removing the obstacles and challenges at my own pass.
- Talking about my feelings to my biggest supporters and letting them go, no more supressing.
- Being present and in the actual moment as opposed to always living the past or the future. Absorbing what is around me and taking it all in. “becoming curious”
- Finding happiness in simplicity and simple everyday accordance’s,
- Resting a busy mind with acts of lots of self-care.
- Getting to know the real you, self-acceptance.
- Using self-validation, trusting your own self-worth will being true happiness.
- Acceptance of your true self.
- Using this affirmations on a daily basis “You are good enough and strong enough”
YOU can have and deserve to experience true contentment, because only YOU have the power to write your own autobiography, only YOU get one life so make it the way YOU want it. Valuing your own uniqueness and enjoying and using the life tools that this journey brings with it, this will bring a life full of contentment, true happiness and joy.
Connection between Contentment and Recovery
written by Una
Cantered and stable between the swinging highs and lows of elation and depression rests the balance of quiet contentment. The purring cat resting on a warm stone in bright sunshine radiates a state of ease. Arising thoughts dissolve before intruding and ruffling gentle calmness. Relaxed body deeply inhaling air fragranced by yellow rose petals . Appreciation for all that is ,was , and will be. Alert ears prick sharply , aroused by desire for a scampering mouse. The moment acquires a new dimension. A calculated pounce , poised and accurate , lands lunch. Savour satisfy and stop. Nature unfurls it’s beautiful core contentment of giving and receiving. Pivoting on an axis of acceptance.
Acting from an attitude of compassion. Contentment remains.
Contentment is not the fulfilment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have .(Anonymous)
The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones. Chinese Proverb
Contentment is a state of grace, a state of peace and happiness, appreciation and enjoyment for what is, right now. Contentment arises when we glimpse what it means to be present in the moment with no concern for the future or anxiety over the past. We become aware of a sense of now. Contentment comes when we become satisfied with who we are, what we have, where we are, and that we are living by our own values. Quite often we continue to react to negative influences long after they have stopped, simply because the negative reaction has become an unquestioned habit or a part of who we believe we are.What we get from life depends as much on our attitude and self-belief as on opportunities. We create our own heaven and our own hell by how we interpret and react to events.
Do you continue to hold on negative reactions to old events?
What set of expectations do you live by?What prevents you from feeling content of yourself?
What does inspire you?
What beliefs do you need to let go to feel more content?
Make a list of all the things in your life that you could reasonably expect to be contented with, and then make a list of those things that you wish were different. Preparing these lists can offer you opportunity to reflect on.